© 2012 TSM
This spring in New England has been a strange cycle of early prolonged hot weather followed by several weeks of cold, damp weather with a few nights below freezing. And like most things that respond to warmth and sunlight, I was out in my garden in early March, clearing the flower beds of winter debris. All of my perennials were sprouted and many already budding out way before their normal timeframe. Now, after a few frosts, I look about and see damage on many of the flowers and shrubs. And of course it reminds me of my successes and failures with pacing when I was struggling with ME/CFS.
It was so difficult to recognize the difference between solid progress where I could take the next step toward recovery and a good day which needed to be repeated at the same level for a while. Of course my hope and emotions were almost always in the ‘this is it’ camp. Unfortunately, most of the time I needed to stay where I was and follow the protocol until this new level of health was consistently repeated. In the beginning, I jumped forward and was almost always rewarded with a set back. Some more severe than others. But over time, I finally began to listen to my body’s call for restraint and to review my daily log for patterns that pointed to whether or not I was ready.
I admit that it took a strong hold on the reins at times when I really wanted to unleash a cantor. Do you struggle with pacing? How do you deal with miss queue days? Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.
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Be Well Again,
Martha
© 2012 TSM
We have been experiencing a drought in New England since the first of the year. The normal Spring rains which enable the flowering of bulbs and perennials have been absent. Then last week the weather forecasters were a buzz about the storms moving up the eastern seaboard laden with much needed water. As the front got closer, things shifted to warnings about flooding and washouts. And of course I began to think about the constant emotional peaks and valleys I experienced when I was struggling with ME/CFS.
As with all emotions that we actively fight to contain, they are held at bay by intentional shoring up with periods of overspills which always seem to be triggered unexpectedly. The cruelty of ME/CFS only served to amplify the intensity of these highs and lows. My first year was full of frustration with the medical community that labeled me as a head case. With few exceptions I was looked upon as ‘mentally weak’ and in need of therapy. After a period of permitting that negativity to cling to me, I finally rejected it. But I was still left with a pattern of extremes where sometimes the skies would dump a deluge of emotions and I would struggle to tread water. After climbing out of that, I would experience a period of emotional drought when I could stay focused on the protocol and the slow but observable progress toward getting well again.
This Focus helped me to eventually steer away from emotional lows. How do you manage this aspect of the cruelty of ME/CFS? How do you shore yourself up? Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.
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Be Well Again,
Martha
© 2012 TSM
I’ve recently had a series of emotionally challenging events in my life. It’s resulted in hesitancy about what’s coming next – an apprehension about the future which I know will at some point entail more of the same kind of challenges. And of course it renewed the feelings that used to affect me when I was struggling with ME/CFS.
I had tried mightily to not let feelings of anxiety or fear of more bad days get to me. My cognitive brain accepted that I would have to deal with them as I slowly recovered but my emotions and psyche were uneasy – waiting for the signs and body pain that would be the harbinger of a bad day. Sometimes I would allow this anxiety to effect my day even if it was by comparison a reasonable day. It took a great deal of intentional focus to see the positive side of how I was physically feeling. And to ignore the anxious voice inside of me.
The strategy that finally worked for me was planning ahead. During the time I was bedridden, I would plan by the hour. What should I be doing during the next few hours to achieve a good outcome? As I got healthier, I planned by the day. What should my day look like in order to stick to the protocol and have a successful day? Eventually, I was looking at a week and planning a well paced reasonable series of days that generated a positive result. It seems simple but it worked.
How do you let go of the apprehension? What are your strategies? Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.
Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.
Be Well Again,
Martha
© 2011 TSM
When you are struggling with ME/CFS, it’s hard to see anything else. ME/CFS controls your energy, your schedule, your choices, your physical comfort, your day, your night and your outlook. Everything you consider can be interpreted through your ME/CFS colored glasses with a dose of brain fog.
For someone with ME/CFS, it’s a necessity. It’s a survival mechanism. It’s reality. And fighting this reality is fruitless. Just more squandered energy and risked relapses.
Remembering that we have restrictions eventually becomes second nature. And as much as it totally stinks, it can develop into the way forward. Acceptance of this second nature or inner ME/CFS voice can bring rewards. Better choices. Better days. Beginning to experience better weeks.
For me personally, it took several knock down relapses before I understood this dreaded voice. Some days I wanted to throttle it. The message was one that I didn’t want to hear. But slowly, eventually, I began to listen. Do you listen to the cautionary messages of your inner voice? Are you learning to pace yourself better and avoid severe relapses? Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.
Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.
Be Well Again,
Martha
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