Category: Patterns

ME/CFS Memory – Write It Down

6/11/2019

Tim Boland - Payette River, Idaho

As I age, my memory seems to fail me at unexpected times. I can’t recall the name of a flower that I’ve know for a decade or the name of a street that I’ve driven a thousand times. Recently, I couldn’t remember the name of a friend’s daughter and I wrestled with my memory to pull it up as I stood there with a blank look on my face. And of course, it reminded me of the brain fog I experienced daily when I struggled with ME/CFS.

During my ME/CFS days, I would be in conversation and the entire topic and my thoughts would slip away into an awkward silence. Trying to pay bills or add up simple numbers was painstaking. But most of all, I would loose track of entire days or weeks. I couldn’t recall the simplest timelines. And I struggled to get any sense of progress until I made the commitment to write it down.

Ok, I admit to having a mantra about keeping a Daily Record. And it stems from the realization that it was my daily record that over time gave me the clues to My Version of ME/CFS. I encourage everyone who is struggling with this cruel disease to faithfully keep a record of sleep, activities, rest periods, food and medications during the course of each day and night. It takes about five minutes a day to write it down in a simple, easy-to-review format.

What kind of record do you keep? What information has proven invaluable? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS New Year - Take a fresh look

1/8/2019

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It’s a hackneyed part of our culture that everyone makes New Year resolutions which we earnestly pursue for one month. Then we return to our old habitual patterns. And every year we resolve not to let that happen yet again. So here we are. For many, it’s a desire to improve one’s health. If you’re struggling with ME/CFS, the stakes and the rewards are much higher than the average person who just wants to look or feel healthier. For us, it’s about reclaiming our lives and our ability to be fully functioning and present – to be well again.

I encourage you to take a fresh look at your version of ME/CFS. Hopefully you are keeping a daily log of your activities, sleeping/resting times, symptoms and medications. Step back and take an objective look at your patterns. Look for periods of wellness. What preceded those periods? Replicate those patterns. Look for periods of ill health or crashes. What preceded those periods? Don’t repeat those patterns. Look at your symptoms. Which are the most debilitating? When do they flair up? How can you treat them in order to short circuit the flair up? Look at your sleeping patterns. How can you improve the quality of your sleep? How can you make your bedroom into your version of slumber heaven – light, sound, comfort and sleep aids. Your daily log needs to be mined for clues as you find your path back to wellness.

If you’ve made progress this year and you’ve managed to shed some of the symptoms that were masking your version of ME/CFS, awesome! As you take a fresh look, you may get a clearer view of the key or central issues which characterize your version of ME/CFS and some insight into new approaches, strategies and clues to your next steps. It was through this methodical periodic review that I eventually unraveled my version of ME/CFS and was able to be fully well again. What will you focus on in this New Year? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Change – New Beginnings

9/4/2018

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Although the official beginning of Fall will arrive on the Autumnal Equinox, the days after the long Labor Day weekend and the sighting of a morning school bus bring on the feel of the changing season. Although some of us would enjoy an extra week or two of August weather, it’s time. And nature reinforces that with the cooler nights and comfortable daytime temps. When I was first sick with ME/CFS, I would grind on myself about another season come and gone – wasted – while I languished in bed. I was still caught up in the desperate search to find someone who could cure me.

Then I finally began to realize that there wasn’t a silver bullet – even now, I’m sad that there isn’t – and that I needed a new approach. A change - A new beginning. I had been doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different outcome – as we all know, that’s the definition of insanity. And yes, anyone would get a little insane if they knew they were physically ill but no one could or would provide some answers.

Many of us find change to be outside of our comfort zones. But change is the way forward for many of life’s challenges. ME/CFS is no exception. It wasn’t until I took a hard look at myself and my specific version of ME/CFS that I began to heal and work my way back to full health. Soap box – Are you keeping a daily journal?

What change will you bring to your approach to ME/CFS? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

I will be off the grid for the next several weeks. I’m looking forward to the time I’ll be spending away from the distractions of technology however much I love its’ gift of connectedness. Look for my next posting on Tuesday, October 2nd and consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Repetition – Keep Your Sanity

7/10/2018

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This summer in New England has seen a lot of hot weather. It hasn’t been two or three days in a row. It’s been a long conga line of hot dry days. Day after day and week after week. And it’s only the third week in July. I can’t remember the last time we had a good rain. I’m not an AC lover but it’s been on almost constantly. And inevitably when I get into drawn out repetitive situations, I think about my struggle with ME/CFS.

When I finally quit riding the roller coaster after two brutal years and settled into the protocol, it was a long, repetitive, frustrating path. Whenever I looked forward, the repetition seemed to spread out endlessly before me. Like this long hot summer, it didn’t seem like it would ever end. I had to find the courage to settle in. I needed to take it a day at a time. I needed to stick with the recovery plan and work it every day. Honestly, I couldn’t think about how slow the pace was because it drove me crazy. Much like this summer, I don’t think about how many more hot days are coming. I take it day by day. Right now, there’s another gorgeous sunny day outside my windows. The kind I hoped for in the dead of winter.

My best days of dealing with the slow repetitious pace were when I looked over my health log and saw the real progress. I was slowly making my way back to full health. And the proof was right there written in black and white. It was a balm for my sanity. Are you on the slow, repetitious path that the protocol requires? What helps you stay sane? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

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Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Treatment – Working with a Provider

6/12/2018

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By the time most of us received our ME/CFS diagnosis, we had seen several practitioners hoping to find answers as to why we couldn’t regain our strength and energy. Batteries of tests later, we still had no answers. So, we were labeled with ME/CFS/Fibro or whatever it’s called in your region. For most of us, this pronouncement was accompanied by a complete lack of a treatment plan.

We are struggling with a chronic condition whose symptoms include pain, complete fatigue, brain fog and the inability to get restful sleep. From this place of low functioning, if at all, we have no answers and no solid treatment plan. And I don’t consider ‘rest and you’ll feel better’ a treatment plan.

What to do? I flailed around for quite awhile before I started keeping a daily record. But once I started, I began to have specifics that I could document and discuss with my provider. Instead of looking for him/her to provide me with answers to my illness, I provided solid data about my patterns and symptoms. Full disclosure, he never seemed to care much about my energy patterns. But he liked seeing symptoms that he could directly treat. And he loved getting feedback via follow up data to determine if the treatment had any effect. So, I learned to work with him as a partner. It was a completely different relationship than I was used to but it worked for ME/CFS.

Do you have a provider that you’re working with? How do you successfully partner with him/her? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Doctors – Working Relationships

2/20/2018

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Finding a doctor or provider who understands ME/CFS can be a challenge. There is still a lot of misinformation and lack of understanding about ME/CFS in the medical profession. And unfortunately, some providers still believe that ME/CFS is not a physical illness. That said, there are some providers out there who DO understand ME/CFS and most importantly, there are many provides out there who know how to work with a patient no matter what the diagnosis.

This puts the burden on us, the patient, to create a working relationship with our providers. How? Step into the role of the provider. They have trained for years to make educated medical assessments based on data collected from medical/family histories, physical examinations, tests and symptoms as described by the patient. Two of these sources rely on the patients memory and capacity to translate how they are feeling into terminology that means something to the provider. For ME/CFS patients, this is a challenge. We inherently are struggling with compromised memories and frequently fail to keep a conversational context for any extended period of time. Add that to the often rushed environment of a doctors office where the face to face time with the physician is limited and mostly directed by the doctor who is asking a lot of questions. Lastly, we have a diagnosis that is non-specific. Each patients version of ME/CFS can be vastly different in presentation other than the standard definitional symptoms. So as patients, we need to be proactive with data. We need to go into the doctors office with an accurate picture of how we have been since our last appointment described in data terms that a doctor can relate to.

A daily health log is key to ensuring a reliable picture of how you are doing. It provides your physician with data driven input. It accurately represents your symptoms and their severity which give your provider specifics on which to focus. Most importantly, it gives you confidence in knowing how you are progressing in real terms that don’t rely on your compromised recollections. Are you keeping a daily log? Do you have a working relationship with your doctor? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS New Year - Take a fresh look

1/9/2018

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It’s a hackneyed part of our culture that everyone makes New Year resolutions which we earnestly pursue for one month. Then we return to our old habitual patterns. And every year we resolve not to let that happen yet again. So here we are. For many, it’s a desire to improve one’s health. If you’re struggling with ME/CFS, the stakes and the rewards are much higher than the average person who just wants to look or feel healthier. For us, it’s about reclaiming our lives and our ability to be fully functioning and present – to be well again.

I encourage you to take a fresh look at your version of ME/CFS. Hopefully you are keeping a daily log of your activities, sleeping/resting times, symptoms and medications. Step back and take an objective look at your patterns. Look for periods of wellness. What preceded those periods? Replicate those patterns. Look for periods of ill health or crashes. What preceded those periods? Don’t repeat those patterns. Look at your symptoms. Which are the most debilitating? When do they flair up? How can you treat them in order to short circuit the flair up? Look at your sleeping patterns. How can you improve the quality of your sleep? How can you make your bedroom into your version of slumber heaven – light, sound, comfort and sleep aids. Your daily log needs to be mined for clues as you find your path back to wellness.

If you’ve made progress this year and you’ve managed to shed some of the symptoms that were masking your version of ME/CFS, awesome! As you take a fresh look, you may get a clearer view of the key or central issues which characterize your version of ME/CFS and some insight into new approaches, strategies and clues to your next steps. It was through this methodical periodic review that I eventually unraveled my version of ME/CFS and was able to be fully well again. What can you see in your patterns? What will you focus on in this New Year? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Pacing – Keeping the Beat

11/14/2017

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I was recently playing drums with a small group of drummers and what started with a base rhythm devolved into a less than pleasant cacophony of noise. If you’ve ever sat in on a drum circle, you know exactly what I mean. To solve this problem, the leader needs to lay down a basic simple beat and hold it. It gives everyone a point of reference to play off of and to return to and it keeps the group cohesive. Experienced drummers already know this and learners usually pick it up when the leader points it out. When you’re struggling with ME/CFS, there’s no leader to set the basic beat.

When a large mother drum is present, several people sit around it and hold down a beat – sometimes it’s a heartbeat. It sounds like an actual heart beating – boom, boom, pause. Boom, boom, pause. Just like the line you’d see scrolling across the screen of a cardiac monitor. Two peaks followed by a flatter line. It’s all about the underlying rhythm - the natural pacemaker.

Unfortunately for ME/CFS patients, it’s a challenge to keep the basic beat – the pace that will consistently get us from day to day without being caught up in a push/crash cycle. It’s a matter of fine tuning. Collect data, make observations, find successful patterns – Repeat. Repeat, Repeat, Pause. Repeat, Repeat, Pause. And eventually Repeat your way back to health.

How do you pace to a basic beat? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Progress –Review Your Patterns

9/26/2017

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For many, Fall is the gateway through which we return to familiar patterns after the long warm days of summer. Hopefully, we’ve spent some time in the outdoors and had a break or two from the norm. If you’re struggling with ME/CFS, the norm is the inability to function as a healthy person. So the long days of summer may have only served to put an exclamation point on your disability and frustration which could have resulted in a push-relapse cycle…

As we return to normal patterns, it is obviously subjective. What a typical day looks like for one ME/CFS patient, can be completely different for another. But as each patient looks back over the past year, it would be wonderful to see improved health since last Fall and disappointing to feel worse. Which applies to you or those you care for? How do you get on the improved track?

For some, patterns are the key - unique patterns for each patient. Specific to each patient and situation. The key to recognizing patterns is keeping a detailed health log. As resistant as some may be to this idea, it is a focused way to get a handle on your unique version of this wastebasket diagnosis of ME/CFS. A patient’s memory is impaired and often useless for holding the train of thought during a conversation. How could the same person hold a week of patterns in his/her head? And then have the recall to see progress over a year?

If you are a patient and you are not keeping a daily health record, start today. Start right now. Get a pad of paper, a spiral notebook, the back of an envelope – just start writing down a brief summary of your day. If you have been keeping a record, what seems to be the most valuable information in your record? What is missing and would help to know? Please COMMENT or send in your thoughts and I’ll post them. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS/SEID Crash Triggers – What Do You Avoid?

6/20/2017

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The last few days have been hot and muggy in New England. Summer is definitely here. Over the weekend we were doing some yard work and were working up a sweat. I commented that I wanted to go for a swim and my son remarked that I don’t swim. I only float. From his perspective, it was true. My version of swimming is mostly with floatation – usually a noodle. And I definitely don’t swim strokes over any distance. But it hasn’t always been this way.

Before I struggled with ME/CFS/SEID, I swam laps in a pool every day at lunch or early in the morning if my schedule allowed. Then came ME/CFS/SEID and all that went away. Skip forward several years to when I was finally following the protocol and getting better. I was avoiding push/crash cycles and feeling stronger each month. Then I got the bright idea to try swimming again - major crash. More time passed and I was back on track and feeling stronger. Yes, I tried swimming again – another crash. Full disclosure, I did this three times. What was I thinking? I never tried to swim again. Even after I climbed Kilimanjaro, I was afraid to try swimming again.

My brain is now hard wired to avoid swimming. Even though it makes no sense, somewhere inside me I still fear that swimming will trigger an ME/CFS/SEID crash. I used to think I was crazy for still thinking this. But I came to realize that instinct is important in survival and that I’m not much of a gambler. What crash triggers have you learned? What do you avoid? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Memory – Write It Down

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ME/CFS Change – New Beginnings

ME/CFS Repetition – Keep Your Sanity

ME/CFS Treatment – Working with a Provider

ME/CFS Doctors – Working Relationships

ME/CFS New Year - Take a fresh look

ME/CFS Pacing – Keeping the Beat

ME/CFS Progress –Review Your Patterns

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