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ME/CFS New Year - Take a fresh look

1/7/2020

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It’s a hackneyed part of our culture that everyone makes New Year resolutions which we earnestly pursue for one month.  Then we return to our old habitual patterns.  And every year we resolve not to let that happen yet again.  So here we are.  For many, it’s a desire to improve one’s health.  If you’re struggling with ME/CFS, the stakes and the rewards are much higher than the average person who just wants to look or feel healthier.  For us, it’s about reclaiming our lives and our ability to be fully functioning and present – to be well again.
 
I encourage you to take a fresh look at your version of ME/CFS.  Hopefully you are keeping a daily log of your activities, sleeping/resting times, symptoms and medications.  Step back and take an objective look at your patterns.  Look for periods of wellness.  What preceded those periods?  Replicate those patterns.  Look for periods of ill health or crashes.  What preceded those periods?  Don’t repeat those patterns.  Look at your symptoms.  Which are the most debilitating?  When do they flair up?  How can you treat them in order to short circuit the flair up?  Look at your sleeping patterns.  How can you improve the quality of your sleep?  How can you make your bedroom into your version of slumber heaven – light, sound, comfort and sleep aids.  Your daily log needs to be mined for clues as you find your path back to wellness. 
 
If you’ve made progress this year and you’ve managed to shed some of the symptoms that were masking your version of ME/CFS, awesome!  As you take a fresh look, you may get a clearer view of the key or central issues which characterize your version of ME/CFS and some insight into new approaches, strategies and clues to your next steps.  It was through this methodical periodic review that I eventually unraveled my version of ME/CFS and was able to be fully well again.  What will you focus on in this New Year?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays.  And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha
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ME/CFS Pacing – Protect Part of Your Day

10/1/2019

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When you’re struggling to recover from ME/CFS, pacing is one of the most difficult challenges.  It’s too easy to get caught up in the flow of the day and lose control of what you had intended.  We quickly can become victim to over doing and triggering a relapse.  It can be absolutely maddening.  We know what we need to do and not do.  We have planned out the day.  It’s in alignment with the protocol we’re following and we know if we follow the plan then we will have a successful, positive day.

Then the unpredictable, real world seems to take over.  By the late afternoon we’ve either blown the plan to bits or we’re barely on track just hanging on.  And we seem to do this way too often.  OK, we’re human and we can forgive our weaknesses.  But ME/CFS is not forgiving.  ME/CFS is opportunistic and just waiting for an opening to assert itself like an energy gremlin.  So what to do?

One of the strategies I used was to plan my day with built in breaks.  I would sandwich them around the most demanding part of the day and sometimes also right in the middle if need be.   I would have ‘optional’ parts of the day that I could opt out of depending on my energy levels and what else was still required of me.  Essentially, I planned for the unpredictable.  I gave myself space in the day to rest and to do whatever self-care I needed.

How are you pacing for the unpredictable?  What part of your day do you protect?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!
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Be Well Again.
Martha
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ME/CFS Answers – Look Within

8/27/2019

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​Several decades ago everyone was wearing buttons.  It was the rage at the time and we Americans totally obliged.  I was slow to the party.  There really wasn’t something so important that I wanted to assert it everywhere I went.  Then I saw a button that called to me.  It simply said – Begin Within.  Yes, this was a perspective that I knew well and would want to impart to all.  Skip forward to last week when I was rummaging thru a drawer and found it.  I was thinking about how this simple wisdom was the key to my struggle with ME/CFS.
 
It wasn’t until I stopped looking for answers from others and looked within.  That’s where I finally found the answers.  Of course, they weren’t spelled out in big letters.  They were hidden in my version of ME/CFS.  I had to do the work to find them but they were there.  Once I got on track with my daily record, the answers started to slowly surface.  Not in days or weeks, but months and years.  It took patience and pacing but it all started when I understood that I needed to – Begin Within.
 
Have you discovered some important clues to your recovery by beginning within?  What strategies have worked for you?  Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!
 
Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays.  And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again, 
Martha
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ME/CFS Memory – Write It Down

6/11/2019

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As I age, my memory seems to fail me at unexpected times.  I can’t recall the name of a flower that I’ve know for a decade or the name of a street that I’ve driven a thousand times.  Recently, I couldn’t remember the name of a friend’s daughter and I wrestled with my memory to pull it up as I stood there with a blank look on my face.  And of course, it reminded me of the brain fog I experienced daily when I struggled with ME/CFS.
 
During my ME/CFS days, I would be in conversation and the entire topic and my thoughts would slip away into an awkward silence.  Trying to pay bills or add up simple numbers was painstaking.  But most of all, I would loose track of entire days or weeks.  I couldn’t recall the simplest timelines.  And I struggled to get any sense of progress until I made the commitment to write it down.
 
Ok, I admit to having a mantra about keeping a Daily Record.  And it stems from the realization that it was my daily record that over time gave me the clues to My Version of ME/CFS.  I encourage everyone who is struggling with this cruel disease to faithfully keep a record of sleep, activities, rest periods, food and medications during the course of each day and night.  It takes about five minutes a day to write it down in a simple, easy-to-review format.
 
What kind of record do you keep?  What information has proven invaluable?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!
 
Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays.  And consider being part of the conversation.
 
Be Well Again,
Martha
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ME/CFS New Year - Take a fresh look

1/8/2019

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It’s a hackneyed part of our culture that everyone makes New Year resolutions which we earnestly pursue for one month.  Then we return to our old habitual patterns.  And every year we resolve not to let that happen yet again.  So here we are.  For many, it’s a desire to improve one’s health.  If you’re struggling with ME/CFS, the stakes and the rewards are much higher than the average person who just wants to look or feel healthier.  For us, it’s about reclaiming our lives and our ability to be fully functioning and present – to be well again.
 
I encourage you to take a fresh look at your version of ME/CFS.  Hopefully you are keeping a daily log of your activities, sleeping/resting times, symptoms and medications.  Step back and take an objective look at your patterns.  Look for periods of wellness.  What preceded those periods?  Replicate those patterns.  Look for periods of ill health or crashes.  What preceded those periods?  Don’t repeat those patterns.  Look at your symptoms.  Which are the most debilitating?  When do they flair up?  How can you treat them in order to short circuit the flair up?  Look at your sleeping patterns.  How can you improve the quality of your sleep?  How can you make your bedroom into your version of slumber heaven – light, sound, comfort and sleep aids.  Your daily log needs to be mined for clues as you find your path back to wellness. 
 
If you’ve made progress this year and you’ve managed to shed some of the symptoms that were masking your version of ME/CFS, awesome!  As you take a fresh look, you may get a clearer view of the key or central issues which characterize your version of ME/CFS and some insight into new approaches, strategies and clues to your next steps.  It was through this methodical periodic review that I eventually unraveled my version of ME/CFS and was able to be fully well again.  What will you focus on in this New Year?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays.  And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha
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ME/CFS Change – New Beginnings

9/4/2018

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Although the official beginning of Fall will arrive on the Autumnal Equinox, the days after the long Labor Day weekend and the sighting of a morning school bus bring on the feel of the changing season.  Although some of us would enjoy an extra week or two of August weather, it’s time.  And nature reinforces that with the cooler nights and comfortable daytime temps.  When I was first sick with ME/CFS, I would grind on myself about another season come and gone – wasted – while I languished in bed.  I was still caught up in the desperate search to find someone who could cure me.
 
Then I finally began to realize that there wasn’t a silver bullet – even now, I’m sad that there isn’t – and that I needed a new approach.  A change - A new beginning.  I had been doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different outcome – as we all know, that’s the definition of insanity.  And yes, anyone would get a little insane if they knew they were physically ill but no one could or would provide some answers.
 
Many of us find change to be outside of our comfort zones.  But change is the way forward for many of life’s challenges.  ME/CFS is no exception.  It wasn’t until I took a hard look at myself and my specific version of ME/CFS that I began to heal and work my way back to full health.  Soap box – Are you keeping a daily journal?
 
What change will you bring to your approach to ME/CFS?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!
 
I will be off the grid for the next several weeks.  I’m looking forward to the time I’ll be spending away from the distractions of technology however much I love its’ gift of connectedness.  Look for my next posting on Tuesday, October 2nd and consider being part of the conversation.
 
Be Well Again,
Martha
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ME/CFS Repetition – Keep Your Sanity

7/10/2018

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This summer in New England has seen a lot of hot weather.  It hasn’t been two or three days in a row.  It’s been a long conga line of hot dry days.  Day after day and week after week.  And it’s only the third week in July.  I can’t remember the last time we had a good rain.  I’m not an AC lover but it’s been on almost constantly.  And inevitably when I get into drawn out repetitive situations, I think about my struggle with ME/CFS.

When I finally quit riding the roller coaster after two brutal years and settled into the protocol, it was a long, repetitive, frustrating path.  Whenever I looked forward, the repetition seemed to spread out endlessly before me.  Like this long hot summer, it didn’t seem like it would ever end.  I had to find the courage to settle in.  I needed to take it a day at a time.  I needed to stick with the recovery plan and work it every day.  Honestly, I couldn’t think about how slow the pace was because it drove me crazy.  Much like this summer, I don’t think about how many more hot days are coming.  I take it day by day.  Right now, there’s another gorgeous sunny day outside my windows.  The kind I hoped for in the dead of winter.
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My best days of dealing with the slow repetitious pace were when I looked over my health log and saw the real progress.  I was slowly making my way back to full health.  And the proof was right there written in black and white.  It was a balm for my sanity.  Are you on the slow, repetitious path that the protocol requires?  What helps you stay sane?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays.  And consider being part of the conversation.
Be Well Again,
Martha
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ME/CFS Treatment – Working with a Provider

6/12/2018

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By the time most of us received our ME/CFS diagnosis, we had seen several practitioners hoping to find answers as to why we couldn’t regain our strength and energy.  Batteries of tests later, we still had no answers.  So, we were labeled with ME/CFS/Fibro or whatever it’s called in your region.  For most of us, this pronouncement was accompanied by a complete lack of a treatment plan.
 
We are struggling with a chronic condition whose symptoms include pain, complete fatigue, brain fog and the inability to get restful sleep.  From this place of low functioning, if at all, we have no answers and no solid treatment plan.  And I don’t consider ‘rest and you’ll feel better’ a treatment plan.
 
What to do?  I flailed around for quite awhile before I started keeping a daily record.  But once I started, I began to have specifics that I could document and discuss with my provider.  Instead of looking for him/her to provide me with answers to my illness, I provided solid data about my patterns and symptoms.  Full disclosure, he never seemed to care much about my energy patterns.  But he liked seeing symptoms that he could directly treat.  And he loved getting feedback via follow up data to determine if the treatment had any effect.  So, I learned to work with him as a partner.  It was a completely different relationship than I was used to but it worked for ME/CFS.
 
Do you have a provider that you’re working with?  How do you successfully partner with him/her?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays.  And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha
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ME/CFS Doctors – Working Relationships

2/20/2018

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Finding a doctor or provider who understands ME/CFS can be a challenge.  There is still a lot of misinformation and lack of understanding about ME/CFS in the medical profession.  And unfortunately, some providers still believe that ME/CFS is not a physical illness.  That said, there are some providers out there who DO understand ME/CFS and most importantly, there are many provides out there who know how to work with a patient no matter what the diagnosis.

This puts the burden on us, the patient, to create a working relationship with our providers.  How?  Step into the role of the provider.  They have trained for years to make educated medical assessments based on data collected from medical/family histories, physical examinations, tests and symptoms as described by the patient.  Two of these sources rely on the patients memory and capacity to translate how they are feeling into terminology that means something to the provider.  For ME/CFS patients, this is a challenge.  We inherently are struggling with compromised memories and frequently fail to keep a conversational context for any extended period of time.  Add that to the often rushed environment of a doctors office where the face to face time with the physician is limited and mostly directed by the doctor who is asking a lot of questions.  Lastly, we have a diagnosis that is non-specific.  Each patients version of ME/CFS can be vastly different in presentation other than the standard definitional symptoms.  So as patients, we need to be proactive with data.  We need to go into the doctors office with an accurate picture of how we have been since our last appointment described in data terms that a doctor can relate to.

A daily health log is key to ensuring a reliable picture of how you are doing.  It provides your physician with data driven input.  It accurately represents your symptoms and their severity which give your provider specifics on which to focus.  Most importantly, it gives you confidence in knowing how you are progressing in real terms that don’t rely on your compromised recollections.   Are you keeping a daily log?  Do you have a working relationship with your doctor?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays.  And consider being part of the conversation.
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Be Well Again,
Martha
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ME/CFS New Year - Take a fresh look

1/9/2018

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It’s a hackneyed part of our culture that everyone makes New Year resolutions which we earnestly pursue for one month.  Then we return to our old habitual patterns.  And every year we resolve not to let that happen yet again.  So here we are.  For many, it’s a desire to improve one’s health.  If you’re struggling with ME/CFS, the stakes and the rewards are much higher than the average person who just wants to look or feel healthier.  For us, it’s about reclaiming our lives and our ability to be fully functioning and present – to be well again.
 
I encourage you to take a fresh look at your version of ME/CFS.  Hopefully you are keeping a daily log of your activities, sleeping/resting times, symptoms and medications.  Step back and take an objective look at your patterns.  Look for periods of wellness.  What preceded those periods?  Replicate those patterns.  Look for periods of ill health or crashes.  What preceded those periods?  Don’t repeat those patterns.  Look at your symptoms.  Which are the most debilitating?  When do they flair up?  How can you treat them in order to short circuit the flair up?  Look at your sleeping patterns.  How can you improve the quality of your sleep?  How can you make your bedroom into your version of slumber heaven – light, sound, comfort and sleep aids.  Your daily log needs to be mined for clues as you find your path back to wellness. 
 
If you’ve made progress this year and you’ve managed to shed some of the symptoms that were masking your version of ME/CFS, awesome!  As you take a fresh look, you may get a clearer view of the key or central issues which characterize your version of ME/CFS and some insight into new approaches, strategies and clues to your next steps.  It was through this methodical periodic review that I eventually unraveled my version of ME/CFS and was able to be fully well again.  What can you see in your patterns?  What will you focus on in this New Year?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays.  And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha
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