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ME/CFS Guest Blog – Dale Miller’s list of Health Ideas

5/1/2018

Dale Miller recently sent me his list and I wanted to share it. It’s long so I’ve selected twenty to start. Pace yourself LOL.
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I have been reading your blog for at least a couple of years. You always have a good thought in there that is valuable in helping me run my life. I’ve been dealing with these issues for over 15 years. At different times, I have been in the pit of despair at ever being able to do anything, and at other times, ringing with ecstatic joy at being reborn into a full rich exciting life. It has taken me a long time, but most days, I have learned to savor each day or hour that I am able to function and show up for my life.

Overtime, for me, I have learned that maintaining optimum health is a long haul operation. My view is that watching out for and caring for my body just came at an earlier time in my life than it does for most people. Everyone, if they want to operate at their peak has to be careful to eat the right foods, watch over their mental processes. get the right health care, proper rest, good companions, love and care. We all need/want these things, not just people with a chronic health condition.

Take care, Dale

HEALTH IDEAS
April 19, 2018

Positive/negative affirmations. Whenever you say, “I’m tired. I’m old.” These are negative affirmations. You may not believe in affirmations, nevertheless you may be doing negative affirmations every day!
Develop a tiny interest, something to think about every day.
Keep the mind off sickness, push the mind over to the interest.
Audible books for distraction. Try happy tv or radio.
Music always playing in the house.
Dance it out.
Sing, doesn’t matter if you have a lousy voice, raises the endorphins.
Find someone or animal to touch.
Small exercise daily, even if only visualizing.
Starfish 10x a day. A starfish is when you raise your arms as high as possible over your head, inhale deeply, then bring your arms down and exhale.
Understand completely the connection between illness and depression. If you are long-term ill, you are probably depressed. Suggest Jonathan Harr’s book, Missed Connections for what to do about it.
Constantly be looking for something to feel good about. Roses, flowers, puppies, kittens, dogs.
Find all the parts of your body which are working. Chances are, 97%+ is working, notice that and catalogue if you need to. Focus on what part of the body is working and functioning, not on what is not.
Slow down, taste everything, smell everything, hear everything.
Correct your posture constantly. A slump posture makes you feel bad and breathe shallowly.
Negativity bias. This is a bias that all humans have which is a survival skill. It’s very valuable if there is a saber tiger in your immediate vicinity. Otherwise, you are trained to always seek the negative. This is not helpful if you are trying to recover from a chronic illness.
Control your input, you may have to lose negative friends and family.
Forgive everyone who has ever wronged you in this life-including yourself.
Read inspiring material every day.
Find someone or something to love unconditionally, hopefully yourself.

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ME/CFS Optimism – Brighter Days

4/3/2018

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It happens to me every year around the end of March. Although I don’t see the signs of change in myself yet, one of my window plants catches my notice. There’s a new vibrancy in its color or maybe even a tiny sprout where a dead leaf had dropped. Something triggers my attentiveness and before I’ve cognitively made the connection, I’m trimming, repotting and fertilizing all my plants.

What my plants have all been responding to, and what I’m also caught up in, are the longer days with brighter light streaming in my windows. And I think back to my ME/CFS days and remember how hard it was day after day, week after week and month after month to keep my spirits up. To remember my resolve to keep to the protocol, to allow myself the space to heal, and most importantly to cut myself the mental slack I needed. The only time I didn’t need to be intentional about being upbeat was when the light began to get noticeably brighter at this time of year. There’s a reaction to the increasing daylight that we experience on a cellular level. I’m sure there are reams of scientific studies that have investigated this response but I don’t need to read them. My sense of renewal and optimism are palpable. And during my ME/CFS struggle, it was natural to see this NOT as the marking of another year of this cruel illness, but as the beginning of the year when my progress would get me to the next health plateau – the next stage of recovery.

I’m hoping that you are able to harness this brighter light and natural source of anticipation to carry you successfully along your path back to wellness. Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

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Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Sadness – Snowy Days Made Me Happy

3/13/2018

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It’s a cold snowy day in New England. It's the third storm in a conga line. So today, as I settled in for a less active indoor day, I started thinking about my struggle with ME/CFS and those snowy days. One might think that like some people, snowy days would have seemed dreary and sad back then. But the opposite was true. Snowy days made me very happy.

Why? When I was struggling with ME/CFS, sunny warm days made me miserable. I wanted so much to be out and going about my life. And lovely days were a tough reminder that I was too ill to participate in my own life – in anyone’s life. Those days seemed twice as long as normal. They dragged and dragged and dragged on some more. Those days were depressing.

I must admit, somewhat ashamed, that cold snowy days made me feel like other people might have their days limited as mine were. Not with the physical symptoms of ME/CFS but the limitations on mobility. The restriction of activity and possibly some of the isolation. I felt like other people were stuck in it with me. A sort of warped sense of misery loves company. And this made me happy. OK, not one of my best moments.

As I began to understand that I needed to get off the ME/CFS roller coaster and focus on a real recovery plan, this weather influenced attitude began to change. My daily approach to healing became a matter of choice as I was no longer a victim of ME/CFS but rather someone who was on an intentional recovery path. Nowadays when I’m trapped indoors on cold snowy days, I like to make the best of it and imagine I have lots of company. And a nap is nice too. How do you relate to cold snowy days? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

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Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Plan – Only Keep Your Successful Strategies

1/16/2018

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I learned a new card game over the weekend with a specific deck that contained resource, action and reward cards. The premise of the game was to start with a few cards and then slowly, through the gameplay, build a personal deck of select cards that you thought would be successful in winning the game. On every turn you had to make choices about what to keep, what to acquire and what to aim for. After playing three hands, of course I began to think about ME/CFS and how I had used a similar plan to get well.

After struggling for almost two years, only getting worse, I finally decided that I needed a better plan than my daily ‘how do I feel today?’ approach with the hope that by some miracle I would walk away fully recovered. FYI – I’ve never heard of this actually working for a ME/CFS patient. I decided that I needed a real plan. One made up of a handful of strategies that had actually improved some aspect of my illness. Over time I collected a record keeping strategy, a sleep strategy, a rest schedule strategy, a provider strategy, a nutrition strategy, a supplement strategy and a network for help strategy. Each strategy alone wasn’t going to get me well by itself but as a complementary set of strategies I was able to not only make measureable progress but eventually return to full health.

In essence, I built a personal deck of strategies which I played each day much like the new card game I had learned albeit the stakes were much higher. What strategies have worked for you and are in your personal ME/CFS plan deck? What strategies have you discarded? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

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Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Progress – Where’s Your Focus?

10/31/2017

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I recently participated in and IEP meeting – Individualized Education Plan – for a young friend. For part of the time, people talked about her successes. But for most of the meeting, people pointed out her weaknesses and where she needed to improve. And understandably, this is the point of the meeting. But I went away feeling that her accomplishments were impressive based on expectation. And there was no place to honor that progress. Of course it got me thinking about my struggle with ME/CFS and the way I could only focus on my weaknesses for a long time.

My first two years of struggling with ME/CFS were all about my failure to succeed at my life. All I thought about was what I wasn’t doing, who I was letting down and how I wasn’t figuring out what had happened to me. My focus was on what was going wrong and how it was my fault. One huge negative focus. Finally, after a horrendous crash, we decided to change our approach to ME/CFS and at the same time to change our focus. We started to move away from how I was failing and to focus on how I was progressing. The focus became centered on what I did that day and how I built on that the next day. Yes I had setbacks but we focused on the patterns that gave me positive results and repeated them.

So how are you making progress toward wellness? Where’s your focus? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

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Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Loss – Can be Temporary

10/17/2017

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During my darkest days of struggling with ME/CFS, I mourned the loss of my healthy life. The life that allowed me to run about with endless energy until I was spent, needing only a few nights of solid rest to recover. And I held onto that loss for a while allowing it to further deepen my mood and draw precious energy from what little I had. It was sometimes combined with resentment and a bit of self-blame enabling a solid blow to my psyche. Fortunately, this was not a place I could live in for long.

As I began to understand that my medical practitioners, although most were well intentioned, had no clue what was wrong with me, I knew that it was going to be a hard road back to a healthy life. And for me, it wasn’t an option not to try. I could not accept this loss of my healthy life as a permanent chronic condition although that was the opinion I received over and over. OK, I readily admit that I’m an optimist at heart and stubborn as well.

As I began to treat myself like a case study of one, the healing started, slowly - literally, painfully slow. And it wasn’t until I was fully well that I began to find others who had also fully recovered. Unfortunately, ME/CFS is so stigmatized that even former patients don’t talk about it. So despite the pervasive message that patients don’t fully recover from ME/CFS, it’s not true. ME/CFS can be temporary. Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

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Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS/SEID Colored Glasses

7/18/2017

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When you are struggling with ME/CFS/SEID, it’s hard to see anything else. ME/CFS/SEID controls your energy, your schedule, your choices, your physical comfort, your day, your night and your outlook. Everything you consider can be interpreted through your ME/CFS/SEID colored glasses with a dose of brain fog.

For someone with ME/CFS/SEID, it’s a necessity. It’s a survival mechanism. It’s reality. And fighting this reality is fruitless. Just more squandered energy and risked relapses.

Remembering that we have restrictions eventually becomes second nature. And as much as it totally stinks, it can develop into the way forward. Acceptance of this second nature or inner ME/CFS/SEID voice can bring rewards. Better choices. Better days. Beginning to experience better weeks.

For me personally, it took several knock down relapses before I understood this dreaded voice. Some days I wanted to throttle it. The message was one that I didn’t want to hear. But slowly, eventually, I began to listen. Do you listen to the cautionary messages of your inner voice? Are you learning to pace yourself better and avoid severe relapses? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

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Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS/SEID Negativity – Walk Away from It

6/6/2017

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Recently I was talking with an acquaintance about a personal challenge he was working through. As we began to explore some of his options, the conversation quickly turned negative as he recounted events in his past that he blamed on others and offered as the reasons why he was being held back now. In contrast, I have a friend whose childhood and youth was so challenging, I’ve wondered if I could have come through it. And yet, she is one of the most nurturing, kind and upbeat people I know.

Of course, I think about my struggle with ME/CFS/SEID and I honestly admit that I spent a lot of wasted time in negative territory at the beginning. The total loss of control of my life paired with the frustration of no answers, led me down a negative path. It took a couple years of indulging in the negative before I realized that it was not only useless, it drained me even more than the ME/CFS/SEID itself.

When you’re struggling with ME/CFS/SEID, it’s understandable to harbor anger as well as some negativity toward your situation and even yourself. But it only saps our already limited energy. In order to walk that path back to health, leave negativity behind you. Walk away from it. You’ll be more energized and less burdened. How do you deal with the negative? What are your strategies? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS/SEID Optimism – Brighter Days

3/28/2017

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It happens to me every year around the middle of March. Although I don’t see the signs of change in myself yet, one of my window plants catches my notice. There’s a new vibrancy in its color or maybe even a tiny sprout where a dead leaf has been dropped. Something triggers my attentiveness and before I’ve cognitively made the connection, I’m trimming, repotting and fertilizing all my plants.

What my plants have all been responding to, and what I’m also caught up in, are the longer days with brighter light streaming in my windows. And I think back to my ME/CFS/SEID days and remember how hard it was day after day, week after week and month after month to keep my spirits up. To remember my resolve to keep to the protocol, to allow myself the space to heal, and most importantly to cut myself the mental slack I needed. The only time I didn’t need to be intentional about being upbeat was when the light began to get noticeably brighter at this time of year. There’s a reaction to the increasing daylight that we experience on a cellular level. I’m sure there are reams of scientific studies that have investigated this response but I don’t need to read them. My sense of renewal and optimism are palpable. And during my ME/CFS/SEID struggle, it was natural to see this NOT as the marking of another year of this cruel illness, but as the beginning of the year when my progress would get me to the next health plateau – the next stage of recovery.

I’m hoping that you are able to harness this brighter light and natural source of anticipation to carry you successfully along your path back to wellness. Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS/SEID Double Life – Two Identities

3/21/2017

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When I was at my lowest point suffering with ME/CFS/SEID, it seemed like I had only one identity – a bedridden sick person. As I slowly began to regain some functioning, I would have brief periods of experiencing a different identity – a normal healthy person. This happened when I had a conversation about something I was passionate about and I could keep focused for ten minutes or maybe even half an hour. During that time, I forgot about ME/CFS/SEID. I stepped out of that label and, for a while, became free of it. Then, of course, it would end and I would ‘remember’ my situation.

As I grew healthier, I got to the point where half the time, I could actually participate in some normal healthy person activities and relish for a while in forgetting about ME/CFS/SEID and its cruelty. But it would end and I would have to ‘remember’ again. Straddling both worlds of sick and healthy was not only a physical challenge in terms of pacing, pacing and more pacing. It was a mental marathon ‘double life’ of moving back and forth between these two identities. Of learning to appreciate and revel in the times of acting and feeling like a healthy person and then handling the let down of remembering the reality of my situation. I worked hard at not letting the upside create an even lower downside. I kept my eyes focused on shifting the percentages – slowly and steadily – to more and more normal healthy person and less and less sick person.

How do you handle the Double Life of sick and healthy? What are your strategies? Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission. You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net. And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

Look for a weekly posting on Tuesdays. And consider being part of the conversation.

Be Well Again,
Martha

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ME/CFS Guest Blog – Dale Miller’s list of Health Ideas

ME/CFS Optimism – Brighter Days

ME/CFS Sadness – Snowy Days Made Me Happy

ME/CFS Plan – Only Keep Your Successful Strategies

ME/CFS Progress – Where’s Your Focus?

ME/CFS Loss – Can be Temporary

ME/CFS/SEID Colored Glasses

ME/CFS/SEID Negativity – Walk Away from It

ME/CFS/SEID Optimism – Brighter Days

ME/CFS/SEID Double Life – Two Identities

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