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ME/CFS Selectivity – A Time to be Picky

5/28/2013

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The main reason for our move was to downsize.  While raising our kids, a larger home was wonderful to have.  But lately, we seemed to be dwarfed by the large structure.  So we have accomplished that task and now live in a significantly smaller home.  And although we thought we had divested of a lot of the materials things that filled that larger home, we find ourselves surrounded by piles of boxes - in the basement, in the garage, in the living room, everywhere.  I know what’s in some of them but honestly, whatever is in the rest, I clearly don’t need.  So of course it reminded me of my struggle with ME/CFS and how much pain it caused me to have to let go of many of the parts of my life that I could no longer handle – at least while I was healing.

At the time, I couldn’t image life without some of those activities and I allowed their loss to depress me.  For a while, I valued them more than my health.  But in time, as I focused on getting well and began to see improvement, I had the first real opportunity to add one thing back into my recovery plan.  What would I chose?  What had I missed most that would fit in with my improving energy levels without compromising my progress? 

Now, as I make choices in a new smaller home, it’s like clearing everything off the limited kitchen counter space and then making intentional decisions about what to prioritize and put back.  And now, as I also experienced back then, I liked the selectivity of what to include in my life.  Before I was sick with ME/CFS, I was ‘doing’ a lot of things that were not fruitful personally – things that seemed important at the time but were really just fillers and ‘invented’ priorities by a Type A personality.  I finally began to see that I needed to be selective - It was definitely a time to be picky.  What picky choices are you making?   Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.

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Be Well Again,

Martha

6 Comments
pat
5/28/2013 02:49:26 am

So Important!!! I love the "fillers" comment. Being picky can be so fulfilling. It takes conscious effort and fine tuning. It's easy to accumulate, and more difficult to discard. Be mindful with everything one acquires materially.

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Martha
5/28/2013 09:44:15 am

I've often heard the negative label, "You're too picky." But when it comes to ME/CFS energy decisions or material possessions, being picky is just right :) Thanks Pat!

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Bill Goodin
5/28/2013 07:22:37 am

Martha, I appreciate & need your many excellent reminders ! We,too, are in a life-place desire to down-size living space/place. Currently, the idea appears & feels a monumental & an impossible task.As it is on our "don't have to now" list at present, we are postponing until I have sufficient energy to even plan the steps involved. I applaud your successful accomplished move !

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Martha
5/28/2013 09:50:02 am

I will not underestimate the amount of time and energy it took to downsize. In theory, many of us say we want/need to downsize but in reality, it was hugely difficult physically and emotionally. So much must be given up and compromised. We are still working thru a lot of it. Having said that, I am thrilled to have done it and to be on the other side. Thanks Bill!

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Tim Boland
6/2/2013 01:23:22 pm

This has been a major struggle for me at times, Martha, to let you of accumulations. My mom was a monumental collector though I have to admit, much better organized about it with her antiques.

I've also read that if we live in a cluttered space, this can affect our moods too, if things are more ordered, it is said to bring a lighter mood and more inner peace.

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Martha
6/3/2013 05:14:48 pm

I definitely feel more relaxed in an uncluttered space. Far from it in the new house but working on it :) Thanks Tim!

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