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ME/CFS Attitude – The Law of Attraction

6/18/2019

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I was feeling down recently - kind of an internal implosion resulting from too many people and things weighing on me culminating with feeling sorry for myself.  For a period of time I allowed myself to be in that place.  And that was OK because sometimes we need to feel emotions in order to decide what to do about them.  And it gave me a small taste of my lowest points when I was struggling with ME/CFS.
 
I am however, at my innermost core, an optimist and that part of me eventually asserted itself and demanded that I move on.  I was reminded of the Law of Attraction and the theory that by focusing on either positive or negative thoughts, we attract the same energy or results.  The most documented example of this is the placebo effect which produces positive health results in blind medical trials where the patient is only given a simple sugar pill.  Patients are able to think themselves better. I was not aware that there is an equally well documented nocebo effect which produces negative health results in clinical trials where a placebo is used.  People who fear medication or who have a negative medical image can actually cause deterioration in their own health.  Powerful stuff.

 
For me that’s a strong statement about how much control we actually DO have in dealing with ME/CFS.  Once I turned the corner away from blame, denial and anger, and moved forward into solving my ME/CFS puzzle as a case study of one, I began to slowly get better.  And yes, I was actively managing my health every day and it was no accident that the daily scrutiny finally resulted in my return to health.  But my positive attitude directed at my determination to figure out my version of this cruel disease, was a big factor in succeeding despite the long haul.  How do you manage your daily attitude in order to attract positive healing?  What strategies work for you?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!

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Be Well Again,
Martha


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Tim Boland
6/23/2019 07:26:02 pm

Something I truly appreciate with your blogs Martha is that you discuss your own experiences in such an honest and straight forward way. I think I mentioned this some time ago that I read that women are more likely to contract CFS than men. Also when I read early on about fibromyalgia, it was said that basically it was a person going right up to their limit, and then beyond it, so that the body cannot cope and we can become unbalanced.

I mention that as women are more often known to be caretakers in society, taking on multiple tasks of taking care of children and their husbands, in our day working, being there for others in a way that stretches them beyond where we should be, to care for ourselves in body and mind. I too have this ‘affliction’ of co-dependency, where as a child my mother often complained of not feeling well, or her grievances about my father, and I felt it was my job to help take care of her feelings. My feelings and needs did not feel so important.

This past week I got an example of that. I have a teenager who has been helping me with yard work and staining of the decks, even when I tell him I need to get going, he wants me to continue to be there and listen to what he’s excited about, at his age primarily cars, and in Idaho, hunting. It’s hard for me being a listener, it’s hard sometimes to set limits, and some people either don’t hear that you’re getting tired or just need to go. After he left on Friday, I felt noticeably more tired and I know that is not good for me. So I am intending to tell him as gently as possible that with health issues I should not be on my feet to long, that it’s tiring.

Life time habit of being there for others can be difficult to address.

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Martha
6/23/2019 10:00:41 pm

So true Tim. It's second nature for many of us to listen and care for others. Then we feel our energy drop and we wonder why. Often we give till it hurts. Literally. Great example from your own life. Thanks Tim!

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