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ME/CFS Emotions - Droughts and Deluges

6/30/2020

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Early summer weather in New England can vary dramatically day to day.  This year is no exception.  The normal spring rains which enable the flowering of bulbs and perennials have been alternating with oppressive dry summer like heat waves.  Cold heavy rain for days followed by sun baked days approaching 95 degrees.  Last week the weather forecasters were a buzz about the storms moving up the eastern seaboard laden with needed water.  As the front got closer, things shifted to warnings about flooding and washouts.  And of course I began to think about the constant emotional peaks and valleys I experienced when I was struggling with ME/CFS.
 
As with all emotions that we actively fight to contain, they are held at bay by intentional shoring up with periods of overspills which always seem to be triggered unexpectedly.  The cruelty of ME/CFS only serves to amplify the intensity of these highs and lows.  My first year was full of frustration with the medical community that labeled me as a head case.  With few exceptions I was looked upon as ‘mentally weak’ and in need of therapy.  After a period of permitting that negativity to cling to me, I finally rejected it.  But I was still left with a pattern of extremes where sometimes the skies would dump a deluge of emotions and I would struggle to tread water.  After climbing out of that, I would experience a period of emotional drought when I could stay focused on the protocol and the slow but observable progress toward getting well again.

 
This focus helped me to eventually steer away from emotional lows and to avoid riding the drought and deluge roller coaster.  How do you shore yourself up?  Please COMMENT on this blog or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them with your permission.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.  And Guest Blogs are most welcome!
 
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Be Well Again,
 
Martha


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Tim Boland
7/15/2020 01:16:03 pm

Your words remind me Martha of a room mate I had in my high school years. He was a good guy, very easy to get along with. But I noticed fairly soon that when talking to girls he had a tendency to greatly exaggerate, as once telling two girls, one that I knew, that we had just gone up to Idaho City and witnessed a flash flood.

That was not true and I was so embarrassed I could barely talk to the girl I knew, not wanting to dispute his story but not wanting to join in, either.

My father was usually an even tempered man, so reliable in those days of the 50s and 60s, every day right on time to go to work and to return home. My mother though more emotional, always cautioned me with 'patience is a virtue'.

And I would say that patience is something I had to learn from my childhood days and right through high school. It is not easy being patient with the illness, a more restricted diet and having to be attentive to being moderate in all that I do, though there are days when I definitely overdo it.

I do wonder if many in 'the younger generation' are able to continue on with challenges they may face with patience. For me, I am grateful for those early and sometimes challenging days of learning it.

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Martha
7/17/2020 08:42:47 pm

Patience is highly under rated. It takes a great deal of it to deal with everyday life, and even more with ME/CFS. We all struggle with it. You're lucky to have learned it early. Thanks Tim!

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