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ME/CFS Irony – Mind Over Matter

1/24/2012

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I did a lot of surfing and exploring of the definition of irony before I would even consider using the word.  As many have experienced, there is a current culture of ‘looking down one’s nose’ at the ignorant use of the term irony - Alanis Morissette a prime example of being taken to task by many.  I have decided that I’ll risk it.  Please feel free to chide me if your take is different.

Here’s my perspective.  We live in a culture where people are recognized, honored and even championed when they ignore the physical signals of their bodies and push themselves to the brink of their capacity - to a breaking point in the pursuit of some objective.  It’s lauded as the ultimate achievement of Mind Over Matter.  We see this most dramatically in athletic competitions but it also has a formidable presence in the work place, at home and even in personal leisure pursuits.  Ultimately, we are held up to the ‘You Can Do It All’ standard.  And in a lot of situations, we manage to get away with it for a while.

Then ME/CFS takes up residence.  I don’t think that it’s a coincidence that many ME/CFS sufferers would label themselves as Type A personalities prior to ME/CFS.  And so when we are challenged with something that threatens us to the core of our physical capacity, what’s the instinctual ‘go to’ solution?  Yes – Push Through It.  Mind Over Matter.  And we are shaken when this not only doesn’t work but it makes ME/CFS worse.  Not to mention the opinions expressed by others who observe and conclude that we’re soft, undisciplined, burnt out or just depressed.

So here’s the Dramatic or Tragic Irony.  The solution to personal challenges that has been engrained in us since childhood – Mind Over Matter – is the complete reverse of what is required to get control over ME/CFS and to ultimately recover.  And it is delivered, wrapped in an ugly package of judgment that we’re weak and in some way inferior.  Did I get it right?  Please COMMENT or Send in your thoughts and I’ll post them.  You can use the Contact Form or send an email to Martha at DefeatCFS dot net.

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Be Well Again,

Martha

4 Comments
OM link
1/24/2012 05:33:18 am

YES! That is one of the biggest challenges to overcome..making the body do whatever the mind wants. Like beating a dead horse. Listen to the body, it knows how to heal if we get out of the way.

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Tim B
1/24/2012 05:51:16 am

This reminds me of a time before my illness when I went to the YMCA regularly. After age 40, I tried to pace myself, especially since I found after doing some pull ups one day that I inadvertently strained a muscle, and read later that musculo skeletal injuries are more common after a certain age. So pacing myself even while swimming became more important.

One evening I was at the Y and overheard a young man joking with his friend 'no pain no gain' and how hard he was pushing his body in the weight room. I cringed a little, thinking he was begging to get an injury.

Even this morning while doing business, I found myself getting worked up to get more done quickly, and your blog came to mind Martha. My body is telling me to slow down, take it easy and that I don't have to accomplish everything all at once, even if it takes a day or two longer to get through all my current tasks, I know I will feel better and more happy as well. Our bodies speak to us and learning how to truly tune in and listen to my body is a key part in my recovery.

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Martha
1/24/2012 05:54:54 am

OM, I like the image of our mind needing to get out of the way so the body makes the decisions. Kind of a cellular level revolution against the autocracy : ) Thanks

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Martha
1/24/2012 06:09:37 am

Tim, You have provided another image that I like. Tuning in and truly listening to what our bodies are saying to us. Similar to the 'active listening' that we try to practice in our relationships with others. We need to give the same concentration and priority to what our bodies are saying. Thanks

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